Today's Friday Five are asking me to give out some end-of-year trophies to the people in my life.
1. Who is your 2019 most valuable player?
It's kind of a tie. One the one hand, there's this Sherlockian chum who's been very encouraging and helpful to me with some Holmes-related projects I've taken on during the past year and a half; and on the other, there's the super-appreciative and enthusiastic Praise Team leader at church, who more than anyone else these days makes me feel like there was definitely a point to all those years of piano lessons.
Remember, I'm an adult on her own who spends her days in a lonely profession (I mean teaching, not church music) where every performance is a solo, and I'm so over-employed that I don't really have time for maintaining, let alone cultivating, close friendships. I survive, to the extent that I do, thanks to a loving extended family and to my respective networks of friendly acquaintances in the church and Holmesian milieus. That I have found a "cheerleader"-type pal among both the Sherlockians and the Lutherans is an extra blessing.
It does make me wonder if I am that helpful to anyone else.
2. Who is your 2019 newcomer of the year?
My new grandson, of course!
3. Who is your 2019 most improved player?
Number One Son (the musician) has landed a good gig in the band of a rising country singer and seems to be thinking more seriously about his future. I worry about him less.
4. Who is your 2019 comeback player of the year?
Number Two, a new homeowner now freed from the indignity of living with his mommy, has ditched some of the snark and become the thoughtful son I remember, making sure I get lots of opportunities to visit with my grandson. I'm so glad I bit my tongue all those times when living together got tense.
5. Who receives your 2019 team spirit award?
Number Three Son, who's been the heart of the family since he joined it.
Last week's questions were also good, but I was too busy to do them. So here they are, as a bonus.
1. What was your most recent unexpected expense?
The $2K it took to fix up the boy's car after the front axle broke while he was getting off the highway on the way home from school a couple weeks ago. Merry Christmas!
2. What was your most recent pleasant surprise?
A very, very thoughtful Christmas gift from a colleague at church. She's one of the secretaries, and I was up in the office last week doing some work and idly speculating about attending the January meeting of the church's book club (I'm usually too busy to even consider going). Well, not two days later, there was a wrapped package for me down by the piano in the sanctuary -- containing a copy of the January book club selection!
3. What can't you find?
The will-power to stop overeating.
4. What are you hiding from?
Possibly it's my failure, despite all my advantages and all the potential that various authority figures said my young self demonstrated, to have made anything like a success of myself. Or maybe it's my religious doubts. You'd think I'd try to avoid dwelling on either of those things, but I actually acknowledge both of them pretty freely, so maybe not. My sadness? Well, I don't know if I'm trying to hide from that as much as I am just burying it under a ton of fat. Oh, hey, that's what I hide from. I haven't looked in a mirror full on in, well, I don't know how long.
5. Who is a mystery?
My crush. He's more of a listener than a confider, so there's a lot I don't know about him. But there's only one thing I really want to know now, and that's whether there's any actual chemistry between us, or whether the little thrill is all one-sided. Unfortunately, I don't know how I'd find out.